Rainbow Loom is for ages “8 and up,” so while, as a 26-year-old female, I am not the target audience for the toy, I am not not the target audience either. In fact, much has already been made of Rainbow Loom’s broad appeal. It is the rare jewelry crafting kit that entrances boys as well as girls—one Chicago retailer estimated that around 40 percent of the looms he sells go to the former. In Time, Annie Murphy Paul writes that her son and his friends have embraced looming, upending the stereotype that boys prefer to throw and smash, while girls like to finesse and prettify. “Toy choice is the single most sex-typed behavior that children display,” Murphy Paul notes, so if Rainbow Loom has lured boys into the “pink aisle,” that’s a big deal.Of course, eye-popping colors and swirly designs don’t have to connote girlhood. One mom speculated to the Christian Science Monitor that her son liked Rainbow Loom’s “gender-neutral packaging” and the fact that it uses “rubber bands rather than fluffy yarn or delicate materials.” But even if the toy amounts to a manlier take on Penelope’s art, it is still interesting to see, in a marketplace chock-full of “boy toys” draped in feminine signifiers for girls’ benefit, a “girl toy” presented as gender neutral.
While the article isn’t primarily about that, it is an interesting note, much like how Easy-Bake ovens have embraced “gender neutral” packaging and colours.
I’m mostly interested in the idea of a near-future rave culture where silly bands and “Rainbow Loom” bracelets join the steadfast pony bead crafts.
basically there are loads of really cool words out there, (persnickety!!) so you don’t need to appropriate OCD for your own use if you don’t actually have it!
use these, people
please and thank
"Finicky" and "persnickety" are p. good choices if you want to be self-effacing. Here’s a quick list of some more self-effacing words that you might use to describe your own particular meticulous habits, for when you know other folks are thinking you’ve gone over the top to do something ever-so:
"a bit of a Fussbuget" (Also: fusspot)
And describing the way you feel about people not hewing to your painstakingly fastidious behaviour? “It just makes me ornery when you don’t clean up.” , “I get really peevish when you skip instructions.” , “I’m quite fretful about being on-time!” Just some, y’know, examples.
fulldisclosure: I am not a programmer, coder, etc. I’m shit at it and have no real functional literacy in any programming language. However, these are some ideas I’ve had as projects-that-involve code.
Old skool Redwall-flavour roleplaying board; styled after BBS sites that were common in the late 90’s, nearest accessible format being an imageboard/discussion board. Currently have this working on Kareha; mostly I just need a host and a domain, both can be got for cheap but I have no $$$ so not yet. Free hosts that allow perl have all banned me for having a spamtrap (“spam.txt”), I noticed some errors happened that I haven’t been able to fix (pages failing to post or reload after changing the text or deleting a post). Also still looking at other forum software. Want to implement a chat somehow.
What I’ve been calling an “RP Hook-Up Site”, it’s styled like a dating site, but for non-romantic purposes. The overall “site culture” is one based around the generation of original content (writing and art), with writing samples as a backbone instead of pure character profiles. Options include specifying the types of characters you play (OCs, Fan OCs, Non-OC/Preexisting); things that I hate in RP solicits will be banned (no face-claims, the idea of “literacy” in the RP context…instead of trying to seem cool by citing “literate” people would browse samples, be able to view chats/sessions the player has on view). I desire the ablity for people to flag the kinds of RPs they are seeking (perhaps the kinds of situations per character?), as well as for people who RP for more complicated reasons (e.g. therians/otherkin, multiples/people with DID…basically those who use the format for spiritual/psychological reasons) so that they can communicate their needs/find others easier. Age verification so youngins can’t request erotic RP (they can be on the site otherwise and obvs you can’t control what folks do but it’s to more encourage age-appropriate interactions), but also for over-age folks to be able to state they are down with eroRP, or to plainly indicate they do not want that. Additionally this would be for genre, scenarios, and character-type requests. That’s all, frankly, check boxes. Harder level things would be the idea for multi-faced profiles…that one user has many sub-profiles, some of which may be hidden, all of which may be viewable as their own profile (with the option to hide the user), so that a character can stand on it’s own and other users are allowed a sense of mystery about their interactions…a larger scope would be to allow the formation of groups, which would provide a dedicated forum and webchat for a set of users, as well as areas to list member and add flavour (setting stuff, rules, etc); as well as users to each have their own forum/journal type area that is default-private/invite only, but has the option to post publicly for “open threads”, the idea being that users can accept/invite other users into a semi-private roleplay scenario, or leave it open to the site so that anyone can join. However the overall function of the site is more to advertise for off-site RP. I expect this to need more original code than the former, though I’m looking at opensource “social media” software. I also expect it would be, if accepted, more traffic-heavy and more load-bearing. Thus it would be more necessary to have a dedicated server as time goes on. Also moderation would be important, possibly attempting to do some kind of community self moderation but often [with you little shits] it’s a fox-in-the-hen-house situation. I also expect that some type of awards for interaction would be given, not “achievements” but perhaps something like “the daily crown” on Doll Divine, where logging on gets you a point to respend in community involvement (on DD the point is given as an award to a user-created doll you like, like an upvote) because it serves no faux-money purpose, in deters hording points (imagine if you had to create one original post for every “like” on tumblr, because there’s no content value for the liking user, it doesn’t contribute to spam-abuse) such a system might be used within a “karma”/upvote system (you spend your log-in points to give kudos/tokens of esteem to other users for making constructive contributions, a user with a high number of esteem points is someone who has the respect of their peers and contributes to exemplifying “good content” over poorer content) but again, rough. The biggest hurdle for this project, after the code, would be the maintenance…my observations as a user are that most hobbyists expect a professional-quality hobby-interest site, even if it’s run by fellow hobbyists. The site is more of a hobby to me and I worry that the potential userbase would demand the attention of a full-time job. Again, I currently don’t have the money to experiment with a functional site yet, so this is more something I want to work in theory and may not see air for several years. Ugh I’ll be 30 and I’ll basically be one of those guys in a 3-wolf-moon shirt uuuuggh.
other potential problems: admin wants to be a user. no ads/minimal obtrusive ads (static, relevant)
anyway hello i have a hobby i just don’t participate in it ever.
so i just saw this kinda mental health affirmation-type post and something ticked me off; more than affirmations usually do. So lemme just clear the air:
In bipolar disorders, mania is not happiness.
let me say that again:
Bipolar. Yeah… mania is not happiness.
Bipolar disorder is subject to any number of different types of manias, the “highs”, that contrast with the “lows” of various depressions. A “high” day is not a “good” day, it is just as bad as feeling the lowest rock-bottom of depression, it is a symptom of the disorder. Mania is sometimes masked with euphoria, but it is not contentment. Mania is also subject to be violent, impulsive, aggressive, hyperactive, and irritable; someone having a manic episode may start a number of projects that quickly overwhelm them, or they loose interest, or they just feel restless. Mania is not a maintainable state, the depression? Often comes as a “crash” from the manic episode. Some sufferers have “minor” manias that lack the usual “high-intensity” behaviour of Type I manias, but it is still a manic episode and while the behaviour might pass as normal elation, frustration, or confidence, it too is not maintainable, it’s not a “milder” form of Bipolar, just different.
I can’t really say what happiness is because that’s a subjective observation. But mania is not normal happiness; it’s not necessarily “good-feeling”. And if you’re going to write positive affirmations about how to accept mental illness and direct anything at Bipolar people, you need to grok that.
ahh no really, i just sorted my taskbar [taking off the huge amount of pinned art programs and multiple writing programs and putting each into it’s own folder and making the folders toolbars] and really
I’m getting headtingles all ASMR style. I thought it was just from “stepping back and looking at my work” the first time, but now I’ve done it about a dozen times and still…!
it’ll wear off eventually. it’s probably compounded by my clearing off my desk top, too, as i loathe to clutter it. it makes me feel like I have a grip on things. 8|
i have had depression since i was 13/14 and was unofficially diagnosed by a doctor at 16, then officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist at 18. i have seen countless blogs on here (primarily run by teenage girls) glamourising the hell out of it when it’s evident that they’re just feeling perfectly natural sadness, or perhaps teenage angst and moodiness.
It’s not our place to judge and diagnose other people. I have been diagnosed with depression too, but I don’t believe that gives me the right or professional training to make judgements based on the contents of people’s blogs.
i’d rather they didn’t label themselves with depression because when they do that it makes everyone who sees them think that’s what depression is, and then they dismiss those who have had it take over their life for so long they can barely function because they see depression as what these very vocal teenagers have been attributing to it, rather than be able to recognise what it truly is.
That’s why it’s so important to get the resources out there, so people can know what it is. That’s why it’s important to get the word out, because there are these misconceptions. But in the end, a few bloggers on Tumblr aren’t going to change the diagnosis, they aren’t going to change professional’s minds what is or isn’t depression. The definition of depression won’t change. And myself, I care about me getting better, not what some people on the internet think about it. I’ve dealt with this for twenty years and one thing I’ve learned is that there will always be people with a skewed vision of what depression is and there’s not a thing you can do about it.
there’s a pretty big line between a person trying to understand their unhappiness and a person making a blog announcing they have depression and posting loads of things entirely misrepresenting the illness and therefore proving they don’t actually know what it really means to have depression, just that they want to be seen as a tortured soul and think crying ‘mental illness’ is the best method of getting away with this.
If that’s truly the case, they’ll get bored with it and move on. Many teenagers are just looking for themselves and trying to figure out what they are and trying on new labels and such. We all do this as teenagers. This is just part of life.
if someone is so determined they have depression then just sitting at their computer reblogging pictures with sad words on them isn’t going to help them anyway. i know it can be difficult to find a mental health professional who isn’t dismissive of teenagers but if a person feels so strongly that they have this horrible illness then seeking help is miles better than making a blog that not only glamourises it (therefore implying they consider it to be a good thing) but also provides a method of putting incredibly dark and potentially suicide-triggering thoughts into theirs and others’ heads.
Wow, that last sentence could easily describe this comic blog. This kind of suggests that people shouldn’t use their blog to discuss their depression. If their goal is to glamorize depression, they aren’t doing a good job because I don’t feel my condition is particularly glamorized.
idk, this is just my opinion and it’s already given me anon hate so i suppose i shouldn’t have voiced it. oh well, too late now.
I don’t think anyone deserves anon hate but caring what other people put on their blogs is a surefire way of getting it. That’s why one should focus on their own rehabilitation. It’s difficult enough caring what family and friends think of it but caring what strangers on the internet think of it? That’s too much and will only serve to frustrate you more.
TEENAGE GIRLS CAN’T LIKE THINGS I LIKE, AND THEY CAN’T HAVE DISORDERS I HAVE EITHER
I MEAN WHAT IF THEY SIMULTANEOUSLY LISTENED TO JUSTIN BIEBER AND HAD DEPRESSION
THAT WOULD JUST RUIN DEPRESSION FOR ME
LIKE FOR ME DEPRESSION IS SOMETHING MEANINGFUL AND IMPORTANT. NOT SOMETHING A TEENAGE GIRL CAN TALK ABOUT.
I AM GOING TO HAVE TO GET A MORE COOL DISORDER THAT NO ONE ELSE HAS DISCOVERED YET IF THIS KEEPS UP. SUCKS BECAUSE I WAS DEPRESSED BEFORE IT WAS POPULAR, BUT NO ONE WILL UNDERSTAND MY PAIN IF A GIRL CAN DO IT TOO.
GOSH I REALLY HATE WOMEN.
i cannot believe you could be so stupid as to infer that from what i wrote
depcomix’s response shows poor interpretation and awareness but you’re putting so many words in my mouth i’m surprised i’m not choking right now
Completely ignoring the people who are in denial that mental illnesses are like, en vogue right now (must be nice to put them on and take them off like a hat, I wouldn’t know).
A friend recently summed it up: “I always thought I knew what being anxious was like, but if this is what true anxiety is people who have had it their entire lives must be really strong.”
That’s what casually saying you have depression because you have a couple of sad days and want to seem interesting does. That’s what diagnosing yourself with OCD because you have a few quirks does. It misrepresents something horrible and difficult that causes people to suffer and need medical attention as something common, a mood swing, a personal oddity. Then you have people saying shit like “JUST POWER THROUGH IT I DID” and like, of course they think that. Because they have no idea what these disorders really are.
Reading up on your symptoms can be great, it can calm you down. It can show you this stuff is more common than you think, that you’re not broken, that you’re not alone.
But self-diagnosing is deeply dangerous. Do you now the difference between a dissociation and a flashback? Do you know the difference between OCD and OCPD? Trust me, you should probably have a degree before you diagnose anyone because you can’t just read up on it on a Wiki and understand it completely (don’t even get me started on blogs and stuff, Tumblr is a goldmine of irresponsible mental health information).
Also, it’s impossible to be objective about yourself and your symptoms. Especially enough to give yourself a diagnosis.
Just, go to a doctor. This is why mental health needs to be available to everyone. It’s not a DIY practice, it’s just not.
This may piss people off who follow me but I am staunchly against self-diagnosis and staunchly against treating mental illness as something cute, quirky, or interesting. I’ve seen people misdiagnose themselves with something awful and difficult when it was something simple and probable treatable. I’ve also seen people misdiagnose themselves with something like mild depression when in actuality, they needed to go to the doctor because something was deeply psychologically wrong with them, and they were a danger to themselves. This is not harmless.
And I don’t hate for half a second on teen girls. I was one of these girls. I thought I was just being a “drama queen” for years because of that, and it’s more because of the hysterical attitudes above than OP.
Speaking as someone who has dealt with anxiety and depression for much of her life, I have to say this “LOL SO DEPRESSED/AWKWARD” shit people pull really gets my goat, too. I completely understand how it feels to not have your mental illness taken seriously because of your youth (I’m 18; thankfully I was officially diagnosed by the time I was 13) but I feel like lots of people just pull the mental illness card to look special and unique. Another example to bring to the table is anxiety. My anxiety rules my life; I’ve had serious panic attacks and it’s hard for me to form serious connections to people or go out and enjoy my life because I’m always worrying about the worst case scenario. So when I see people on here gloating about how “awkward” they are or presenting their antisocialness as a cute quirk it just REALLY pisses me off. They treat my illness like a cute accessory when I want nothing more than to be rid of it. That’s what it all boils down to. People wanting to use mental illnesses to seem different and special. That sort of thing is very offensive to those of us who live with these issues and are forced to cope with them on a daily basis.
The people who responded to my post missed the point completely. Because here you are, continuing to spew venom at other people because you don’t think their version of mental illness measures up to your own.
You missed the point that no matter what happens, whether it’s “in vogue” or whether some people use depression as a cop-out or an excuse in their own lives, it’s not going to change the diagnosis to a professional. If you go to a doctor and they diagnose you, what someone said on Tumblr is not going to chnage anything. The diagnosis is safe, trust me.
Second, by caring what other people do and say on their blogs, you are not helping yourselves. As I said, it’s bad enough having depression, and it takes a lot of energy to try to keep it in check. Why waste that time and energy on complaining what other people think on the internet? Why are you sabotaging your own recovery by adding this unnecessary stress in your life?
There is nothing good that comes out of this kind of bashing. Focus on your own recovery, and let other people figure themselves out without being judged by stangers. If they seek help, that’s great, but we all know that depression tends to make seeking help difficult anyways.
The bottom line: being judgemental does not make you a very nice person nor does it help in your recovery. And that’s the irony here; that the diagnosed people complaining about others not getting help are not helping themselves either.
that kind of thinking is harmful
i don’t think that their mental illness doesn’t measure up to mine.
i think that the symptoms they describe do not match up with depression or anxiety symptoms, WHICH ARE VERY CLEARLY OUTLINED
I will not stand for people who think that this doesn’t hurt me and everyone who shares my disease
they contribute to the misinformation that makes people think that I’m just sad or nervous because they have heard people that are sad or nervous say that they have depression and anxiety
That kind of thinking is not harmful. On the other hand, your thinking IS. By harshly judging people based on a superficial knowledge of the person involved, you could push them further towards suicide IF YOU’RE WRONG. You want to talk about harmful? Do you really understand what’s harmful? Perhaps you are thinking about harmful to yourself, because you’re obsessing about what someone else says about an illness. In that case, it’s not the other people who are harmful to you but your own preoccupation with whatever other people say.
When you talk about the symptoms of the other person, actually, the symptoms aren’t all that clear. That’s why we leave the diagnosis to trained professionals, not people like yourself. Many people have a difficult time expressing themselves (especially if they have depression) and for this reason there are specific methods for screening depression. Leave it to the doctors. They may have depression and they may not. If you try to tell a person whether or not they have depression, regardless of what you think you know, you are just not qualified to do it. Honestly, when you say “i don’t think that their mental illness doesn’t measure up to mine” you just sound arrogant. Show us your certifications, do the screening, then you can make the call. Otherwise you’re just hot air.
Now why is this point important? I’ll explain: if you dismiss someone as not having depression when they don’t, well, nothing happens. Maybe they’ll go on in their life, but they live. If you dismiss someone as not having depression when they do, you stand a chance of contributing to their suicide. This sounds a little harsh, but it isn’t. About a quarter of deaths by suicide are because of undiagnosed depression. If you dismiss someone’s suicide they are less likely to seek help for their condition. On the other hand, if you give the person the benefit of the doubt and try to give them help, you stand a better chance of avoiding this fate. So this is why your attitude is in fact the harmful one.
If this hurts you and everyone who shares this disease, you are wrong here — I have the disease (diagnosed 1993) and it doesn’t hurt me. I cannot figure out for the life of me how someone else’s claim (be it true or false) can affect you unless you let it. People like you go on about this “misinformation” as if depression was so widely understood before Tumblr came along. It wasn’t, trust me on this. If anything, depression is better understood than it ever was, especially if you look at it from a historical perspective, when cures for depression included beating, bloodletting, and isolation. We’ve come a long way! This is like the Golden Age for people with depression, and every day we are getting closer to really understanding it. (But in contrast to what you say, we still don’t understand it fully; for example, most antidepressants were discovered by accident and were widely prescribed without understanding how they work). What some people on the internet say is not going to derail the worldwide efforts of scientists to research this illness, I can certainly promise you that. If you think that “misinformation” will somehow change anything, your world is very small indeed.
And to be honest, hey, there will be people who question you and your depression, regardless of what some people say on the internet. Geez, I had the legitimacy of my depression question before I was even ON the internet. That isn’t new, and it’s something we all have to deal with, “misinformation” or not. Sadly, I think a lot of confusion is not because of “misinformation” but of semantics, because of the multiple meanings of “depression” and “depressing”. THAT alone confuses the hell out of people and makes communication needlessly difficult.
I don’t like giving advice, but you seem to be concerned about what is harmful or not. So I will tell you what is truly harmful.
There are two kinds of problems in life, ones you have some control over and ones you don’t have control over.
What other people say and do falls in the latter category. The longer you obsess over these problems the more stress you will have and this will have a detrimental effect on your recovery. And THAT is harmful.
Because if you go to your doctor with this problem, their concern won’t be “those awful people on the internet!” their concern will be “Why are you letting this interfere with your recovery?”
 as if the majority of people had the correct information anyways, depression has always suffered from misunderstandings (but at least we don’t think it’s demonic possession anymore)
I was writing up a long response of agreement, but really, Clay [of DepCom] has covered all the bases I could have covered.
Ugh, just, really. You don’t get to decide whether someone does or does not have a mental condition. Certainly not on the content of their blogs. People with or without official diagnosis are allowed to talk about their feelings in terms that, at least at the time, sound appropriate; to look or share images that one might find personally disturbing. Not everyone deals with stuff in the same way. Not everyone has access to mental health practitioners [for a lot of factors, not just distribution or cost. There are legit still people who think you can just “pray away” mental illness; and doctors, as people, are fallible and capable of abuse and neglect of their patient’s needs.] Not everyone’s mental illness looks the same, not all symptoms present themselves in the same way…in fact, most mental illnesses DON’T require all symptoms to be present, just enough, and even if their are no typical symptoms, that’s why you find “Not Otherwise Specified” versions of disorders, because their suffering is real, even if they are not classic cases. But random people on the net don’t get to decide the life experiences of other random people on the net.
Honestly, I’ve been on the internet for about 13 years now. Everyone swears up and down that mental disorders are “trendy”…They did it on LJ, they did it on Myspace, they do it on tumblr…but no one stops to think that maybe the internet is the one “safe place” a lot of people [esp. young people] have to explore their problems? And all the while everywhere they look, people say “You can’t be …, because …”, “You’re just faking for attention!”, etc. Even in mental health support circles!
[and ffs, “awkward” is not a mental illness. It’s not even necessarily characteristic of anxiety.]
i don’t think you ppl understand how to use the word “hella.”
1. There were hella people at that party last night.
2. “Let’s go smoke this dank.” Response, “Hella! We can use my new piece.”
Is there a 3rd use?
hella is a synonym for very.
"It is hella cold outside!"
??? I GUESS THIS IS JUST HOW THE EAST COAST USES IT?
Yeah, that’s how I use hella. See also: Wicked.
homework to do: very
homework I’ve done: negative very
Is that supposed to make sense???
ah, but if you use the origin:
Homework to do: hell of a lot
homework done: negative hell of a lot
the “negative” doesn’t really make sense but it’s probably supposed to stick out as a term to add emphasis to the understanding of “none”, as well as play back on the original hella.
To me, I’ve always used it between “hell of a lot” and “hell yeah”. In using it as a positive interjection, it’s the antonym of “hellnah / hell no”, and probably as an attache to “very”, it functions like “Verily!” to evoke hearty comradere. I’d say “hella” is a term of speech that suggests a great amount, but it’s not a word-for-word replacement to “very”…it’s like “fuck” in that it fulfills multiple parts of speech. Or maybe a closer example is “totally”, e.g. “Totally rocks, I’m totally down for this!”
Ultimately, when I read the OP, I understood it perfectly.