I should really get off tumblr and do something productive.
Tonight I got off tumblr, read The Phantom Toll Booth, cleaned out the fucking jars that have been sitting by the sink [sorry dudes], and removed the labels making PERFECT GLASS JARS FOR TCHOCHKI-IZING.
I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world.
First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it?
Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that?
End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either?
You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count?
And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.)
>In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born!
Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage?
“Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.
Person A:I'm not a feminist, but I do I agree that we should all be equal, regardless of gender. And I think THAT is worth fighting for.
Person B:I'm not a feminist, but I am pretty sick of getting sexually harassed on the streets. And I think THAT is worth fighting for.
Person C:I'm not a feminist, but I do think it's shitty that my colleague gets paid less per hour than myself for no reason she, or I, can discern. And I think THAT is worth fighting for.
Person D:I'm not a feminist, but I think that women should have control over what they do with their bodies. And I think THAT is worth fighting for.
Person E:I'm not a feminist, but I am getting tired of seeing the same generic woman everywhere telling me I'm not matching up to the proper standard of beauty. It makes me feel bad. And I think THAT is worth fighting.
Person F:I'm not a feminist, but I hate that my partner was raped and then blamed for it, even accused of lying to get attention. And I think THAT is worth fighting.
Person G:I'm not a feminist. I'm more of an "equalist" :) And I think THAT is worth fighting for.
FEMINIST PERSON:WHEN WILL YOU ALL REALISE THAT IT IS FEMINISTS WHO ARE FIGHTING FOR ALL OF THOSE THINGS YOU DEEM WORTH FIGHTING FOR, AND HAVE BEEN ALL ALONG. FEMINISM IS NOT ABOUT BOLSTERING ONE GENDER ABOVE OTHERS. IT IS ABOUT FIGHTING FOR EQUALITY BY IMPROVING THE LIVES OF THE ONES THAT ARE SYSTEMATICALLY FUCKED OVER.
If you can see that systematic oppression is a real thing, why can't you see how oppressors intentionally perpetrate false representations of freedom fighters?
i really have trouble dealing with things that are even remotely scary ugh i dont care that that makes me a wimp i am sitting in my chair scrunched up like a weirdo because i am afraid to put my feet on the floor WHAT IF A HAND COMES OUT FROM THE…
AUGH SHARED PAINS. I’m not an easy scare-er. I can read /x/ most times of days and lololololol@horror movies but fuck i cannot deal with unexpected gifs. even when i expect them. the first one, I saw that coming and was like “ah! oh lol.” but then…the ones after….AHHH! D: AND THEN I DECIDED TO SCROLL BACK TO THE TOP OF THE PAGE WITH MY HEADPHONES ON AND IT SLOWED DOWN ON THE BIG PANEL AND THE WEIRD BURPY NOISE AND AND ;o;;;;;;; tears 8-fold.
What gets me, more than blood and gore etc, and even more than jerky fast animation, is that I couldn’t read it, so I had to make up a lot of the story. a perfectly normal situation, walking home at night. really weird thing happens, but then, you give it directions and it goes away„„right?? ahhhh.
aka I’m not a wimp but it’s 5 am and I;m tired and didn’t feel ~safe~ going to sleep until it was light out. x0
“I am awfully greedy; I want everything from life. I want to be a woman and to be a man, to have many friends and to have loneliness, to work much and write good books, to travel and enjoy myself, to be selfish and to be unselfish… You see, it is difficult to get all which I want. And then when I do not succeed I get mad with anger.”—Simone de Beauvoir (via bearbearpdx)