being able to take time off from work/school (especially for long periods like w/ occupy wall street), being able to get arrested without getting deported (which is what happens to non-citizens when they get arrested), not having disabilities that prevent you from being there, not having children to take care of
you get the idea
sometimes i get annoyed with activists who assume that everyone can go to these things
I get really pissed at people who make excuses for not supporting causes they claim to back. Of course spending 12 days camping out in an unsheltered park in the middle of a seasonal change requires a certain amount of privilege, but I feel there’s a connotation when people say “privilege” in this context. This is not just an observation that some people can afford to sacrifice their time and put themselves on the line, while others cannot; I’m perceiving this as a veiled attack, a writing off of the protesters who stay or try to stay, a “well you don’t have that much to worry about, do you?”
A lot of earlier movements required the sacrifice of time and effort, don’t tell me that there were enough black people with privilege to attend the Million Man March. It’s a two-pronged plague of complacency and disorganization both without and within the protest. I’ve been down to Wall St and talked, not to very many people to be sure, but they’re trying to keep things together—organizing for coats and sweaters and food and mattresses and sleeping stuff to be donated and distro’d amongst the people. I looked over the crowd and, yeah, it’s a lot of young people. Students, working young people, and of course a lot of homeless people [so very privileged to have the free time to be out there, eh?], and it’s people of all races, too, not just trendy white college kids, though it’s harder to tell looking at heads poking out of tarps by streetlight. But of course, even going down there, talking to people who’ve been, etc, it’s still very vague what the demands of the protest are, other than attempting to create a physical representation of unrest within the 99% of the population that do not make up the wealthiest 1%. On the outside, I feel people are complacent, “oh I need to do this and that, I don’t have time to involve myself at all, besides, there’s people down there who will figure out this shit for me.”, we’ve become a culture of nostalgia and observation over action and planning.
No, of course no one expects a full-time student with a part or full-time job or a working family with young kids, or someone who has a mental or physical hindrance that will prevent them, and perhaps make it unsafe for them, to be there, or that very many people who’d risk deportation if they were arrested should, but fuck the people who think everyone down there in that park is just doing to be hip, or because they have the time, or that they’re not sacrificing anything to be present, even for a few hours, even for a day or night. Sure, they have privileges, like anyone, a major one being in the right place [NYC] at the right time [these past few weeks], and/or, the ability to get here [as, as far as I know, no one’s organizing buses to wall st.], but don’t take it out on people who are trying to cut though our complacency and get more people to spread the sentiment and go down to the protest and actually engage in this current issue rather than observe it from the outside. Seriously, a rallying cry can’t fucking be “DO IT, ASTERISK, IF YOU DON’T HAVE ALL THESE PRIOR CONDITIONS AND COMMITMENTS” [because, fuck, what about the people there who DON’T have those “protester privileges” who are still down there or still want to fucking do it anyways, you wanna exclude them “for their own good”?]
Anyway, long story short, if you’re not down there, think about that and own it, for whatever reason, instead of presuming the privileges of the people protesting just because not having those privileges is “risking it”.
Maybe I’m just pissed because I get pissed when I or the groups I’m in get lumped as “well-off white college kids rolling in buckets of privilege” when we’ve got issues and lacks-of-privilege that are being outright ignorned by that some snarker wants to assume comes hand-in-hand with every white/college/young person’s privilege. [Yeah, taking 6 classes, looking for a job, promoting my art, maintaining a 3.0, being unsure of my enrolment status still, and not having money for supplies, food, or even train fare means I’ve got this silver platter that my ability to protest is handed to me on. Yet I still went down there, even helped liberate a little food, and am planning on going down again during the day tomarrow. I don’t have time, money, etc for this, but I’ll spread myself thin.] And I’m responding emotionally to tone because fuck this shit, this is no formal debate, I feel very assumed just because other people in my situation can’t juggle all this shit we’ve got, and other people have more to juggle. Sure, not everyone can do it, but no one needs the fucking defence, in my opinion, unless they feel fucking guilty for knowing they could do something more. You can’t, you can’t, you aren’t doing anything more, then—own that, don’t make an excuse because life handed you a larger shit-list than others, because fuck knows there are people with just as large and larger shit-lists who are out there, doing, showing solidarity or just being around. No one wants anyone to break over this, [except maybe Donald Trump, please imagine his suit ripping like it’s molded on to him and he’s actually a piggy bank and money pours out. because I did and I think it’s important.], but just being down there isn’t a mutually exclusive statement.
-signed a cranky, underslept, broke full-time fourth-year art [comics] major, who’s exasperated by assumptions of class and intersectionality and has a headache.
“I’m also a feminist because I like to fuck, and I resent everything and everyone that would make that a secret shame. I fuck not to make marriages or babies but simply to fuck, and I am sick and fucking tired of the government and beer ads and my friends and fucking Cosmopolitan telling me there’s something wrong with that.”—The Pervocracy: Full Frontal Feminism. (via oppressmenot)
11. Trans men who feel like being a queer trans man means being attracted to more than just women (typically cis lesbian women).
12. Trans men who think bad mouthing bottom surgery is a horrible thing
13. Trans men that don’t…
The guys cool with their front hole is because there seems like a lot of shaming towards those who are okay with that part. I just don’t know of too many people that enjoy that specific part. I know I like my boy box. The guys cool with their front hole is because there seems like a lot of shaming towards those who are okay with that part. I just don’t know of too many people that enjoy that specific part. I know I like my boy box.
Yeah, I saw a couple responses to this and even though I sympathize and don’t want to police anyone’s identity or kvetching; I strongly want to shout “STFU!” at the people getting all doubled-over with feelings about how they feel shamed or attacked by that statement—seriously like, oh so sorry that the dominate trans narrative supports how you feel about your body and what you need/want to have done with it and actively shames and questions and polices the idenities of people who don’t.
I feel less pointed about the negative-discussion of surgeries, but I feel the same point still stands. Talking about how that silences and shames people who do get surgery is OK and I understand and agree, but without the context of our society and social pressure to get surgery [which makes many people feel they need a “reason” to not want it], I think it focuses too much attention/pity on people who benefit from society’s gender expectations and doesn’t actively undo the reasons that guys who don’t get surgery, or in kind, guys who are OK with their bits factory-issue are so aggressive and attacking the standard of dysphoria, and ignoring that it does actually hurt other people.
There’s legit reasons why a lot of people are defensive about their bodies and the surgeries they don’t want, because society holds up a standard and rewards people who are applicable to it; but looking it as an abstract standard often hurts the people who do apply to it. And sorry to the people who get caught in the crossfire, but sometimes you have to realize that it’s not about you and your dysphoria, or you and your surgery, but about the fact that some people feel bitter and wrong that others insist they must have these things or want these things. Admittedly, often times people need to talk about these things in ways that a personal and non-judgmental, but I with 14. here is a perfect example of “it’s not about you”. As a group, guys have had to deal with owning up to the feminist abstraction of Men, and give non-male people space to discuss how Men affect them negatively without getting offended because they as a man are not acting like the concept of Men, I think it’s a similar situation with non-op/not-the-same-way dysphoric trans men/people and pre-op/op/dysphoric trans people; what people expect of trans people benefits the latter group and shames the former. Sometimes the former is goning to discuss how frustrated they feel with that, and you can’t really cringe about it because suddenly you feel uncomfortable with that discussion because you feel “appropriately” uncomfortable.
*ITMTOR;IDKWIRT I’m Too Mad To Read; I Don’t Know What I’m Responding To, go back up and formulate a non-from-the-hip response.
I get frustrated with people critiquing Tracey Emin’s art as “self indulgent”. I can understand why people wouldn’t like her work but “self indulgent” is a stupid term to use. All art is self indulgent. As an artist you’re either seeking praise and approval and therefore indulging…