The above article is an update. Her mother went to appeal to keep her out of the psychiatric ward and lost. She will be institutionalized because of her expression of her gender. She will be held until she conforms to male gender and then released to foster care, not her mother who was supporting her.
Please, if you haven’t signed the petition, sign it, reblog it, ask your friends to sign it. We’ve managed to get 40K signatures for a pageant model, we’ve only gotten 11K for a little girl about to have her life ruined. Lets get on the ball and spread the word.
“You don’t need fashion designers when you are young. Have faith in your own bad taste. Buy the cheapest thing in your local thrift shop - the clothes that are freshly out of style with even the hippest people a few years older than you. Get on the fashion nerves of your peers, not your parents - that is the key to fashion leadership. Ill-fitting is always stylish. But be more creative - wear your clothes inside out, backward, upside down. Throw bleach in a load of colored laundry. Follow the exact opposite of the dry cleaning instructions inside the clothes that cost the most in your thrift shop. Don’t wear jewelry - stick Band-Aids on your wrists or make a necklace out of them. Wear Scotch tape on the side of your face like a bad face-lift attempt. Mismatch your shoes. Best yet, do as Mink Stole used to do: go to the thrift store the day after Halloween, when the children’s trick-or-treat costumes are on sale, buy one, and wear it as your uniform of defiance.”—John Waters (via neat-girl)
TRIGGER WARNING: cissexism, transmisogyny, sexual assault.
“Deciding to simply exclude trans women to make some cis women feel more comfortable is, in many ways, worse than patriarchal attacks on women because it’s one group of women deciding to “sacrifice” another group, doing the work of the patriarchy for it. I’ll give an example - at Pride London 2008, stewards took it upon themselves to exclude trans women from the female toilets in Trafalgar Square. THey did this the only way it really can be done - they decided to tell anyone they thought was a trans woman not to use those loos.
The upshot is that lots of trans women, who didn’t look like what the stewards expected trans women to look like used the loos anyway - I was one of them, and some cis women were, as I understood, turned away because they didn’t look sufficiently cis. However, the experiences of each group when challenged were different. I understand one butch dyke, when told to use the men’s, was let through after reacting angrily and even threatening physical violence. One trans woman, however, lacking the cis privilege to simply assert her gender identity and desperate for the toilet, went in the men’s toilet, where she was sexually assaulted.
When you exclude trans women from women’s spaces, be very clear that what you are doing is setting yourself up as the gender police, turning often vulnerable women away out of fear of a stereotype about who we are perpetuated by patriarchal society.
Exclusion of trans women is misogyny, and it hurts all women. Stop it.”
Bands they don’t listen to Films they’ve never watched Books they’ve never read etc Stop it… No-one’s going to hate you if you don’t listen/watch/read something that other people do. Liking things that other people like doesn’t automatically make you ‘cooler’ Like what you like. Because tbh, it kinda irritates people who are ACTUALLY fans of the things you’re reblogging.
I do what I want.
sometimes….an image is just cool/good/nice. Maybe we’ll get into the show/band/film/book, but not if snotty fans are like “ONLY WE CAN LOOK AT AND SHOW OFF THETE PICS AND ANIMATIONS >8C”
“Well, to learn about what the Cold War was about, the obvious place to look is what happened when it ended. So, November 1989, the Berlin Wall fell, the Soviet Union soon collapsed. So what did the United States do? How did it react? I mean, the pretext for everything that had happened in the past was, y’know, the Russian monster — “the monolithic and ruthless conspiracy” attempting to take over the world, as John F Kennedy called it. Well, now the monolithic and ruthless conspiracy was gone, so what do we do? Well, it turns out what we do is exactly the same thing but with different pretexts. And that was made clear instantly. A couple of weeks after the Berlin Wall fell, the United States invaded Panama, killing unknown numbers of people. We don’t count our victims. According to Panamanian human rights groups, maybe a couple of thousand people, bombing the slum — the El Chorillo slum. The Panamanians take it seriously. In fact, last December they once again declared a national day of mourning referring to the invasion, but I don’t think it even made the newspapers here. I mean, when you crush ants in your path, you don’t pay much attention to what they may have to say about it. But they invaded Panama and had to veto some Security Council Resolutions. The point of the invasion was to kidnap a kind of a minor thug, Noriega, who was kidnapped, brought to the United States, tried, sentenced to a long sentence — sentenced for crimes that were real. But he had committed them when he was on the CIA payroll, almost without exception — a small footnote. But for that we had to invade Panama and kill however many people it was (a couple of thousand, probably) and install a government of bankers and narco-traffickers, and drug trafficking shot up, and so on. But it was a successful invasion and applauded here.”—Noam Chomsky, Modern-Day American Imperialism: Middle East and Beyond (via fyeahnoamchomsky)
“Studies have shown, that, indeed, introverts are more likely than extroverts to express intimate facts about themselves online that their family and friends would be surprised to read, to say that they can express the “real me” online, and to spend more time in certain kinds of online discussions. They welcome the chance to communicate digitally. The same person who would never raise his hand in a lecture hall of two hundred people might blog to two thousand, or two million, without thinking twice. The same person who finds it difficult to introduce himself to strangers might establish a presence online and then extend those relationships into the real world.”—Quiet: The Power of Introverts, by Susan Cain (via nerdyninjanicole)
Hi! So, I feel.. completely juvenile and pathetic having to ask for help. But, I’m going to, because I’m struggling. And I’d really appreciate any help.
In short: I.. I need money so that I can put it into a savings account and have enough by graduation to move out of the unsafe environment I’m currently in.
I’m sixteen. I graduate highschool next year in November, after my 18th birthday. I have bipolar disorder, mild Asperger’s, and EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Specified - I vacillate between not eating at all, and bulimia). While I have prescriptions for medication for my mood swings and also for the trouble I have with sleeping, my mother doesn’t let me actually go out and buy it because it costs $100 a month. She doesn’t take any of my disorders seriously, even though I’ve tried to kill myself three times. When I have a panic attack, she yells and slams the door on me.
She spends any spare household funds on cigarettes and illicit drugs. Every time I try to save money, she takes it out of my wallet or rips my room apart to find it. Being able to get out of this house and go to university is what’s keeping me going, but if things just keep going like this I’ll never be able to do either of those things. I won’t have a future. I graduate at the end of next year, and if I end up staying in this house for longer than I need to I don’t know what I’m going to be able to do with myself. It’s not a safe environment, I know it isn’t, but I have no way to get out of it right now.
I know the typical thing to do in a situation like this would be to get a job, but my anxiety issues mean it’s a struggle for me to get to and from school without breaking down.
I’ve calculated how much money I could get together by graduation if I didn’t buy lunch at school and used a high-interest savings account, but it’s only a third of what I need. I’m not asking for donations. I was thinking I could offer up a graphic (examples) or photoset (similar to this one) as compensation for any money you’d be willing to spare. Fandoms I’m in are here. I’ll do any pairing, any character, any colour scheme, anything you want. If you can’t afford to, I completely understand! I know that finances aren’t an easy thing nowadays. Any signal boosts would be very very very very much appreciated.
I have exams next week so I’m spending some of my time studying, but I can definitely take time out to work on whatever you ask for. (Not to be rude, but I’m going to ask that if you’re going to ask for a photoset, please don’t only give me, like.. $3.. Photosets take me about 2-3 hours, if I’m focusing.)
I have PayPal, if you just drop me an ask, I can give it to you.
Um, if you read all of this, thankyou. And I hope that you’re having an alright day.
guys brittany is genuinely one of my favourite people, she deserves everything and i really really urge you to commission something if you have the money, and signal boost if you can’t!!
tw: suicidal discussion. The parts of this post that are really triggering will be in ***asterisks.*** no matter who you are, if somebody comes to you and expresses to you that they no longer want to live, do not call them selfish. do not. call. them. selfish. the selfishness of suicide is up for interpretation. do. not. even. go. there. ***Flip it around. Imagine how shitty you’d have to feel, personally, in order to want to end your life. Forget why this person is upset for just a minute, because you are not them. It doesn’t matter if their mother just died or they spilled their drink or their partner is reasonably upset with them. There is a particular reason they’re upset as they are, and you have no right to judge that. They are in pain. They have chosen to tell you they are in pain. Try to imagine feeling so low, that you no longer want to exist. This is what being suicidal can feel like. It’s not always about explicitly wanting to die. That’s just the method. That’s the only way they can see an end to their pain.*** Other things you should never say to somebody who is suicidal:
“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” STOP. Stop right there. Who are you to say how permanent or temporary somebody else’s problems are? If they want to kill themselves, they most likely have a feeling that the pain is unbearable. Right now. They don’t give a fuck about next year, next month, next week, tomorrow, or even this evening. This person is in pain right now.
“Think of all you have to live for!” - They probably did before arriving at the decision that they want to end their life. Just shut up.
“What about your family/friends/lover/etc?” What about the suicidal person? Stop. Please.
Things you can do for somebody who is suicidal:
Offer your company. Even if you don’t know what to talk about. Stay with them. Physically sit in the same room as them.
Invite them to talk about their feelings.
Let them know that if they are not comfortable discussing something, they don’t have to.
Ask (appropriately) about things you are concerned about but do not understand. Try not to heavily drench these sentences with any sort of bias. Ask them things like “Why do you think you feel that way?”
Separate feelings from fact. Acknowledge that their feelings are very, very real right now to them. At the same time, when discussing feelings, use the verb “feel” rather than “is.” “Why do you feel this way?” goes a lot farther than “why ARE you this way?” Sometimes, we just need to be reassured that our feelings do not define us.
Understand that not everybody has the means to see a doctor or a therapist. It doesn’t matter if they can’t afford it or they don’t want to be judged. It doesn’t matter how realistic *YOU* think it is. Don’t push them.
Only take on what you can. If you do not have the time or energy for somebody struggling with suicidal ideation, do not lie to them. If you can’t handle them, offer to find somebody else who can talk or sit with them if they are comfortable with that idea.
At the same time, do not force somebody to talk about anything they don’t want to discuss, or see anybody they do not wish to see.
Call an emergency number for somebody in immediate danger, i.e. cannot/refuses to contract to safety, or someone who is currently hurting themselves or about to. Even if you think they could be mad at you if you do so.